How do we understand if "He" or "She" is the one?

The term of the ‘one’ is simply an overused and over-romanticized writing trope used fairly liberally in myths, stories, movies, religions, etc, meant to convey a major plot point to fairly simple-minded people or people who want to be entertained with puffy fluff, like most romantic comedies. The problem is when people actually start thinking it is real.

What you do feel is likely a strong physical/emotional attraction to someone, likely more than you have with people previously, so by comparison, they seem special.

Who is to say that you won’t date them? That later the relationship will fail because you find out he/she is crazy and in 6 months you will meet someone new who you feel an even stronger physical/emotional attraction and then he/she will seem “special.” Let’s say that relationship does not work out because he/she gets hit by an Uber driver while saving puppies from a fire, true, you will be sad but who is to say that in 5 years you will not just repeat the cycle again? Then that person will be your “The one,” because you might feel even stronger… well, you get the idea.

There is nothing about a “the one” that is special in any of this. It is just your experience, lust, possibly a bit of obsession at the beginning (thanks endorphins!), some romanticized projecting from your part (or both) and in many times, random luck. That is how the vast majority of people choose their own partners.

You can't tell it until such time came, it'd just happen to its right time unpredictably suddenly. Sometimes the person whom we think is the right one isn't the one for you, sometimes also it happens the person whom you less expected is the one for you it happened to some others like yours isn't there yet so you asked this. Those who got their ideal person might be called lucky enough.

Things will change. Circumstances will. You will change. He or she will, too.

You don’t know what the future holds. But there are some signs that he or she is someone you can live your entire life (or at least a long time) with. Here’s my take:

If you’re comfortable with him/her. If you can be honest with him/her and know that what you say isn’t being judged. If you can confess your secrets to him/her and know that they will be safe. If you can tell them things that you can’t tell your parents. If you are genuinely interested in their life and want to see them succeed. If their dreams are yours too now. If you talk to other girls/boys but still return to him/her and it feels right with them. If you feel safe with them… The list is a bit longer, but you get the idea. No romantic ideas, but a comfortable, happy, peaceful co-existence. I’m not trying to belittle romanticism, as even I’ve thought like this. But when I hear people talk about finding ‘the one’ … here’s what I think.

“Peekaboo, Neo! Where are you?”

And one more important thing: See if all this is mutual. That is very important. One sided love will only carry you so far. Let things happen on their own, do NOT try and force things.

He/She must be a catalyst to your life.

Remember, To say ‘I love you,’ one must learn to say ‘I’.

Love someone with whom you don’t lose your own identity. Know thyself. Know your goal and your priorities. Take your time and decide.

May the force be with you.

Also, have a look to My Unspoken Words - http://unspokenfeelingswords.blogspot.com